Charlie's Compass

ASKING FOR HELP: A LESSON IN TRUST

Charles CurtinPerspectives Offered by Charles Curtin, JD, LLM, CTFA

VP, Trust Officer

 

 Asking is not a weakness, it’s an opportunity.

I’ll admit—it’s really hard to ask for help. Like so many others, I often believe I can do everything on my own. Troubleshoot an iPhone? Sure. Bake a cake? No problem. Never mind that I have no technological or baking skills whatsoever. In truth, I’m often hopeless in these areas.

A perfect example of my ineptitude happened during my bachelor days, right after college. I lived in a tiny studio apartment—so small I could reach the refrigerator from my bed/couch/dining table. Convenient, right? My budget was tight, so cable TV was a luxury I couldn’t afford. My secondhand television picked up only two channels: NBC and PBS. I watched a lot of Antiques Roadshow back then. To this day, I can spot a fake Chinese porcelain vase from a mile away.

About a year into my rental bliss, my future brother-in-law came to visit. We got to talking about my limited TV options. Being a tech-savvy guy, he took one look at the back of the TV, fiddled with the inputs for about five seconds, and—voilà!—over 100 free channels appeared. I had been sitting on all that entertainment the whole time, simply because I didn’t know how to operate the television.

More importantly, I never asked for help.

That experience taught me a valuable lesson. Always ask. The more information you have and the sooner you have it can make all the difference. Admitting you are out of your comfort zone and gaining assistance will only provide opportunity to grow or make more informed decisions.

Time and resources – ask the professionals.

In my professional life, I see this lesson play out often with complex matters, such as trusts. According to a 2025 article in Trust & Will Magazine, over 60% of survey respondents said they plan to name a family member to manage their estate, including any trusts. While well-intentioned, these non-professional trustees often face steep challenges: investment oversight, tax filings, legal compliance, and beneficiary management.  

 

At The Honesdale National Bank Trust Department, we can serve as an agent for individual trustees. This arrangement allows us to work alongside non-professional trustees with the specialized knowledge and experience needed to fulfill their fiduciary responsibilities.

 

Importantly, this agency relationship does not override the original intent of the trust. The named trustee retains in ultimate control, while we assist where needed. It’s a symbiotic relationship—one that helps ensure the trust is managed effectively, efficiently, and responsibly.

Some of the key services we can provide whilst serving as an agent for a trust include:

  • Investment Management – Developing a fiduciary-compliant investment strategy and monitoring performance.
  • Administration – Maintaining accurate records and documentation to ensure all transactions are properly accounted for.
  • Legal Compliance – Ensuring the trust remains in compliance with all applicable laws and regulations.
  • Tax Services – Preparing and filing all necessary tax documents.

Alternatively, the Bank can also be named as a corporate trustee for various types of trusts, As a corporate trustee, we provide comprehensive administration of the trust in accordance with its terms. Most importantly, And often of greatest value, we are legally bound to administer these responsibilities impartially and with full transparency.

Finances are complicated. Life is complicated. Death is complicated. It’s okay to ask for help – and the earlier the ask, the less stressful the burden. The Honesdale National Bank Trust Department has been proudly serving our community with trust services for more than 100 years and we’re here to help with yours too.

We encourage you to contact The Honesdale National Bank Trust Department to make the ask and learn more.

The Honesdale National Bank and its employees do not render legal, tax, or accounting advice.  Accordingly, you and your attorneys and accountants are ultimately responsible for determining the legal, tax, and accounting consequences of any suggestions offered herein.  Furthermore, all decisions regarding financial, tax, and estate planning will ultimately rest with you and your legal, tax, and accounting advisors.  Any description pertaining to federal taxation contained herein is not intended or written to be used and cannot be used by you or any other person, for the purpose of avoiding any penalties that may be imposed by the Internal Revenue Code.  This disclosure is made in accordance with the rules of Treasury Department Circular 230 governing standards of practice before the Internal Revenue Service.

Investments are: *Not FDIC/NCUSIF insured *May lose value *Not financial institution guaranteed *Not a deposit *Not insured by any federal government agency.